From Non-Horsey Mum to Equestrian Sidekick: My Honest Journey

From “Non-Horsey” Mum to Equestrian Sidekick: My Journey Supporting Michaela (and Yours!)

When Michaela started riding at age four, I didn’t know a thing about horses—let alone what she’d need for lessons, leasing, or eventually owning her own pony. If you’re a parent or guardian supporting a young rider (but not a “horsey” person yourself), trust me: you’re not alone.

* It’s Okay to Feel Scared and Overwhelmed

I want to be really honest—when Michaela first started cantering and doing her little jumps, I remember I used to hold my breath the entire lesson. If she fell off, I would gasp, drop my phone, and be a little dramatic (okay, maybe a lot!). As the years went by, I learned to internalise all that so my feelings didn’t affect Michaela and her love for what she was doing. Just when I thought I’d gotten the hang of it, she moved on to a bigger, faster, and stronger horse—jumping bigger and going faster. Suddenly, those old feelings of being scared came rushing back. Once again, I had to trust that Michaela knew what she was doing and that she had amazing support in her coach.

Me personally, I felt overwhelmed a lot—learning all about horses, learning to drive a float (I still can’t reverse!), and then we added horse number two (a baby—well, nearly three, but having a ten-year-old and a three-year-old are completely different!). I’ve learned to break things up into stages, only worry about the task at hand, and just keep going. The one thing I’ve truly learnt is that the horse community is so supportive. I’ve been helped out so many times, and I am grateful each and every time.

I’ve been there for every stage—feeling a bit lost, googling gear late at night, and learning as we went. Here’s what I wish someone had told me:

* It’s Okay Not to Know Everything: I started out asking a LOT of questions (sometimes twice!). Coaches, other parents, and even Michaela herself were always happy to help me understand what was needed and why.
* Start Simple (Trust Me!): Sometimes the best thing to do is just get what’s needed to start—no matter how excited you and your child get. Honestly, I was just as guilty of getting carried away and buying things we didn’t need (those sparkly saddle pads are hard to resist!). Don’t be afraid to start with the basics.
* Let Your Coach Guide You: Don’t be afraid to be guided by your child’s coach. Michaela’s coach has been an absolute godsend for us. When she says we need something, it’s because we really do. Coaches know what’s essential, and they’ll help you avoid unnecessary purchases.
* Every Stage Is Different: When Michaela was just having lessons, it was all about safety and basics. Leasing her first horse meant learning about care routines and trying to keep up with new gear. Owning a horse? Whole new world! Each step came with its own learning curve—and that’s perfectly normal.
* It All Takes Time: Just when I feel like I’ve finally got it all sorted, there’s something new to learn! I only just wrapped my head around “optimal time,” and suddenly I’m trying to figure out what a “special two phase” is. Or I find out that the bridle I bought for Ziggy isn’t going to cut the mustard at competitions—she needs a different bridle and bit for more control. The learning never stops!
* Don’t Get Disheartened: Honestly, it never seems to go smoothly, and sometimes I feel like I’m wining it half the time. After a year and a half of owning Ziggy and getting out to compete, I still forget things or have no clue what’s going on. If that’s you, you’re not alone—none of us have it all together, and that’s completely okay.
* Safety Comes First: I always wanted to make sure Michaela was safe, so I hunted for gear that met Australian safety standards. That’s why, at Keane Equestrian, I only stock products I’d choose for her (and I’m still a stickler for safety!).
* Comfort & Confidence: Watching Michaela ride, I saw how much more she enjoyed herself when she felt comfortable and confident in her clothes. If you’re not sure what your child needs, please reach out—I’ve been there and love helping other parents figure it out.
* You’re Part of a Community: Even if you don’t know much about horses, you belong here. The equestrian world is full of kind, supportive families who remember what it’s like to be new.
* Celebrate the Little Wins: Getting the boots on the right feet, remembering the helmet, making it through a muddy lesson—these are all victories!

* Finding Your Feet: Resources That Helped Me (and Can Help You!)

When I first started out, I often felt like I was speaking a different language from everyone at the stables. Over time, I realised I didn’t have to figure it all out alone—there are so many helpful resources out there for parents just like us.

* Ask Your Child’s Coach: Coaches truly want to help. I’ve never met one who wasn’t happy to answer my questions (even if I asked the same thing more than once!). Trust their advice when it comes to gear, safety, and the next steps for your child.
* Tap Into the Community: Other parents at pony club or riding lessons have been a lifeline for me. Don’t be afraid to introduce yourself, ask for tips, or even just share a laugh about the latest “horse mum fail.”
* Online Support: There are fantastic websites, Facebook groups, and even YouTube channels that break down the basics, explain tricky terms, and offer advice for every stage of the journey. (Check out my Resources for Non-Horsey Parents: Your Go-To Guide.) https://www.keaneequestrian.com.au/blogs/news/resources-for-non-horsey-parents-your-go-to-guide
* Remember—You’re Not Alone: Every parent starts somewhere, and nobody expects you to know it all. The most important thing is your support and encouragement for your child.

If you ever feel lost, overwhelmed, or just need a friendly ear, please reach out. I created Keane Equestrian not just for young riders, but for parents too. Whether you need a gear recommendation, want to swap stories, or just need reassurance that you’re doing great—you can always DM me or comment on our posts.

We’re all learning as we go, and together, we make this community stronger. 🐴✨

With Love Always xx
Aileen